Communication is key. We see this statement on cheesy bumper stickers, in every field and in every situation where communication either affected the outcome positively or negatively. While I may be one preaching to the choir or acting as a redundant recorder, I want to bring up a beneficial element that may give you the upper hand. Whether it is addressing a certain topic in your personal life or going for that big promotion, proactive communication is key, without it, you leave room for doubt, confusion and above all failure.
A proactive approach takes commitment, perseverance and determination. Merriam-Webster Dictionary defines proactive as: acting in anticipation of future problems, needs and changes. Anticipation affects us all. We create a sense of anticipation through people, time and situations. Our social construction over a certain element can lead us to trigger physical, mental and emotional signs of anticipation. Pro-activeness prepares you to face anticipation with confidence helping you to achieve your goals, needs and greeds with great success. Communication is not exempt from a proactive approach. In fact, your proactive approach to communication can lead you to get what you want, when you want it and how you want it.
Seems easy and simple? Well most people stay complacent. We don't want to hurt people's feelings or step on peoples' toes. We rather quietly work our way up a boring ladder instead of bursting the status quo bubble. In the end, we feel disappointed in ourselves, sometimes blaming others for our misfortunes or even blame it on bad timing. All this is caused by lack of communication. Communication is verbal and nonverbal. For example, want that big promotion at the office? Let your supervisors know how much you want that opportunity by doing your work with quality and exceed the expectation of your job requirements. Hard work pays off! Additionally, be verbal about your desire, speak to your superiors about your ability to be a productive member of your organization, company or entity. Talk about how you want to learn and grow in the "biz" and believe this opportunity to be a great one for you to do so. This is one example of proactive verbal and nonverbal cues to get what you want, when you want it and how you want it. Nothing is impossible until you say it is, and even then, you create your own limits.
Looking for a new goal this year? Pick one thing, just one to start off, and communicate about it. Whether it is having a better relationship with your significant other, starting your own business, getting in shape or landing that dream job, make a plan to proactively communicate with those that can help you get where you want to be. Help will be given to those who ask. I know, I know. It is easier said then done. But, give yourself a chance and try it, you might be surprised with the outcome and above all with yourself. I am not trying to have my very own cheesy bumper sticker or ugly coffee mug made, but I am trying to share a secret that has worked for me in the past and continues to do so.
Proactively communicate! Be the one that inspires yourself and others to achieve greatness in your daily routine and overall life.
Tuesday, 17 December 2013
Thursday, 12 December 2013
The Ripple Effect
We have all witnessed it. Some one starts singing a fine tune at a party, and everyone chimes in. I like to call this the ripple effect. Whether it is standing up for your rights at work or getting everyone on board on an idea, the ripple effect is present in our lives. I'd like to briefly talk about the ripple effect in changes in our close proximities that have the ability to have a greater impact in the long run.
Every great innovator, philosopher, leader, scientist and every average joe has the capacity to initiate the ripple effect. It is not some esoteric, unattainable thing only touchable or fathomable by the gods. It is applicable to you and me and every one in between. As I see it, the ripple effect is ignited by an idea, a person, a circumstance, a predisposition or advantage and its ability and potential to make something big out of it. This "thing" has the capacity to bring people together and even divide them. It's potential is so great and the worst part is, it sometimes goes unnoticed. When it goes unnoticed, it is never truly valued and its potential stagnates where the idea once flourished. I am here to tell you that you can have the advantage and the edge by seeking ideas and opportunities to better your personal, social, academic and career life. You have the capacity to change it on a personal level just as much as on a greater level with others.
I challenge you to find one thing in any part of your life and to push its potential. Whether it is brining some change to your life or to a group, seek to make it the very best it could be. If you do it on a personal level and succeed, you might create the ripple effect and try other "things" in your life. You could even inspire those around you to do the same, creating a ripple effect with your surroundings, that could lead to a greater ripple effect in their surroundings, and so on. If you choose to do something that could affect others, just know you will have to find a creative way to get others on board. You shouldn't see this as a challenge but as an ability to push your limits as a leader and a team players all at once.
The ripple effect has potential. This idea is so accessible yet so unexploited that it seems that only a few have the ability to use it. But I am telling you, it's possible, if you believe in that idea and above all believe in yourself, you will ignite the ripple effect. I hope you take the challenge and see how it van work for you. Who knows, maybe you'll be the next best thing,
Wednesday, 11 December 2013
This Christmas...
It's that time of year again. People rushing through the malls, booking flights home, making plans to visit family and taking time off for the holidays. It's a time that many look forward to because they have family and friends to embrace during a time we call the "holidays". Society convinces us that it is the most wonderful time of the year. And for many, it is. But for a few, it is dreadful, depressing and lonely.
Growing up, my family always held a rather large Christmas Eve party. My parents gathered close family and friends at this dinner party. Each year, they made sure that these people had a tradition they could hold on to through time. I've seen this party grow from 15 to almost 40 people. Every guest looks forward to this party and it's not only for my mother's famous biscotti. It's because it makes family feel good being together under one roof, and for those joining the Zeroual tradition, it makes them feel welcomed and loved. It doesn't take much to make a family or a friend feel welcomed to such a tradition. It makes bonds and friendships run as deep as blood.
I have learned so much from this tradition. My parents have opened their home to so many unconditionally and lovingly. Their kindness and generosity are what I love the most about the holidays. It's not the great food, the presents, the music or the games. It is the good feeling inside of me knowing my parents are genuinely exquisite individuals and a dynamic couple.
This holiday, don't think about the lavishing gifts you can give to one another. Think bigger! Look at those around you and make sure that you show people just how much they mean to you. It's not what you give to those around you, it's how you give. And, if all you can afford are good words, make sure you share abundantly. You never know who's day or holiday you might brighten. Make kindness and feel good words become a holiday tradition you carry with you all year long.
Wednesday, 13 November 2013
Self-Awareness Leads To Authencity
Dear Znews readers,
I have been recently introduced to the great works of Virginia Satir. I believe that her work is fruitful and refreshing for all those pursuing work with the goal of interacting with others. For myself, I know my intentions are to work in the fields of peacebuilding and conflict resolution. With that in mind, it is imperative for me to know myself in order to help others pursue the same journey. Gratitude and self-awareness are key to help yourself and others. Without those two elements, your endeavours will lack substance. The degree of how genuine your acts truly are will be questioned. But if you allow yourself to listen and assert who you are in your field, you will attract positive results in your interactions with others.
This post is short but I have included a brief article by Virginia Satir. This brief blurb demonstrates how we are ever-changing and that we have the choice whether or not to discard certain habits or perspectives that are not fitting to who we truly are. Your authenticity as a human being is what helps you attract others in a positive and productive way. Read it and see how it applies to you.
My Declaration of Self Esteem
I am Me. In all the world, there is no one else exactly like me.
Everything that comes out of me is authentically mine, because I alone chose it --
I own everything about me: my body, my feelings, my mouth, my voice, all my actions,
whether they be to others or myself. I own my fantasies, my dreams, my hopes, my fears.
I own my triumphs and successes, all my failures and mistakes. Because I own all of me,
I can become intimately acquainted with me. By so doing, I can love me and be friendly with
all my parts. I know there are aspects about myself that puzzle me, and other aspects that I do not know
-- but as long as I am friendly and loving to myself, I can courageously and hopefully look for solutions to the
puzzles and ways to find out more about me. However I look and sound, whatever I say and do, and whatever
I think and feel at a given moment in time is authentically me. If later some parts of how I looked, sounded, thought,
and felt turn out to be unfitting, I can discard that which is unfitting, keep the rest, and invent something new for that
which I discarded. I can see, hear, feel, think, say, and do. I have the tools to survive, to be close to others, to be productive,
and to make sense and order out of the world of people and things outside of me. I own me, and therefore, I can engineer me.
I am me, and I am Okay.
I have been recently introduced to the great works of Virginia Satir. I believe that her work is fruitful and refreshing for all those pursuing work with the goal of interacting with others. For myself, I know my intentions are to work in the fields of peacebuilding and conflict resolution. With that in mind, it is imperative for me to know myself in order to help others pursue the same journey. Gratitude and self-awareness are key to help yourself and others. Without those two elements, your endeavours will lack substance. The degree of how genuine your acts truly are will be questioned. But if you allow yourself to listen and assert who you are in your field, you will attract positive results in your interactions with others.
This post is short but I have included a brief article by Virginia Satir. This brief blurb demonstrates how we are ever-changing and that we have the choice whether or not to discard certain habits or perspectives that are not fitting to who we truly are. Your authenticity as a human being is what helps you attract others in a positive and productive way. Read it and see how it applies to you.
My Declaration of Self Esteem
I am Me. In all the world, there is no one else exactly like me.
Everything that comes out of me is authentically mine, because I alone chose it --
I own everything about me: my body, my feelings, my mouth, my voice, all my actions,
whether they be to others or myself. I own my fantasies, my dreams, my hopes, my fears.
I own my triumphs and successes, all my failures and mistakes. Because I own all of me,
I can become intimately acquainted with me. By so doing, I can love me and be friendly with
all my parts. I know there are aspects about myself that puzzle me, and other aspects that I do not know
-- but as long as I am friendly and loving to myself, I can courageously and hopefully look for solutions to the
puzzles and ways to find out more about me. However I look and sound, whatever I say and do, and whatever
I think and feel at a given moment in time is authentically me. If later some parts of how I looked, sounded, thought,
and felt turn out to be unfitting, I can discard that which is unfitting, keep the rest, and invent something new for that
which I discarded. I can see, hear, feel, think, say, and do. I have the tools to survive, to be close to others, to be productive,
and to make sense and order out of the world of people and things outside of me. I own me, and therefore, I can engineer me.
I am me, and I am Okay.
Wednesday, 9 October 2013
Work Hard And, Don’t Forget To Play
I am currently in my midterm week in graduate school. During this time, my stress level takes new heights. From having an internship, work, coaching
volleyball and being at school full time, I sometimes forget that decompressing
is vital for recharging my batteries. I believe most people find themselves in this pattern. Constantly busy with our dense schedules, we
can sometimes forget how fun and a little play can help us become more
efficient and happier in our work. I have always believed in the following expression:
work hard, play hard. Now, sometimes this saying can be taken to extremes. We
tend to work hard all week and then find ourselves living our weekends to the
extremes with social activities that make us tired, irritable and more likely
to make poor decisions. I am not saying going out, having a little fun is going
to ruin your life, but how you do it can. That’s why I believe in having a
little play in every day. It builds up gradually, which makes you less likely
to go from one extreme to the other.
I know what you are thinking. You don’t have time. You have
a family, your have bills to pay, grades to make, responsibilities! Well, I am
here to tell you that if that is your excuse, you are never going to be able to
enjoy life and all your hard work. And I have come to know that most people who
don’t take step one never take step two. That is why; I am asking you to try it
out, even if it’s only for a few days to a week. Every day, for 30 minutes to
an hour do something you love. Whether it is going for a walk with a friend,
exercising, writing, painting or even just meditating, do something you love.
You have to find the time. Time is a precious gem to us. And if your life is as
equally important as your time, you should make time for a little play. You can
even have different activities for each day. This adds variety and never makes
that 30 minutes to an hour period boring or routinely.
Over the years, I have used this technique every day as a
distressing activity so that every time I go back to my work, homework or responsibilities,
I feel like I had a mini vacation and I am refueled. Your mind deserves to be exercised
in every possible way, and that includes doing something you love outside
of your daily routine. Personally, I exercise, every morning. And it heals, my
mind, body, heart and soul. Whether it is going for a run or being in a gym, it
allows me to benefit physically and mentally from my obligations. I hope you
take a moment every day; so you can reap the benefits of the famous saying work
hard, play hard.
Monday, 7 October 2013
#1 Rule: Be Authentic
Life is full of challenges and obstacles. You are faced with
success and failure every day. From the moment you wake up, you interact with
family, friends, coworkers and the general population. Daily routines are
filled with obligations and responsibilities. And in the end, you hope that all
your daily endeavors reach optimal outcomes. Life is a manifestation of our
social construction. In our minds, we decide what kind of career we want to
have, what friends we want to align with, the type of partner we want to share
our time with and the type of lifestyle we want to live. Our predispositions
come from past experiences, choices and actions we have taken. Our current
situation is based on the past, and the present determines what will happen in
our future. That being said, how do we
reach these “optimal outcomes” in our lives? How do we get what we want?
Well, I think it all begins with setting goals. Long-term,
mid-term and short-term goals are imperative to achieve successful outcomes. There
are many ways you can begin to get what you want. Some people enjoy writing
their goals down and putting those goals in a place they can see every day. It
keeps them accountable and aware of the desired outcomes. Other people make a
mental list in their head and constantly think about every thing they want to
achieve in their lives. Personally, I like to write my goals because it makes
me be more honest about what I want. Whether it is about my personal life,
social life, career or even my health, writing down what I want is an
affirmation that I am putting out into the universe. It also allows me to
change and alter the goals accordingly. Everyone is different so find the goal
setting approach that best suits you.
The following step is the actions you take to achieve those
goals. I find that the people in my life who have achieved their goals have
been very proactive towards achieving their desired outcomes. These people had
one attribute in common, authenticity. Their actions stemmed with a belief in
their goals and themselves. They knew what they were doing, and worked towards their
goals in a straight line rather than banana route to them. You can feel the
positive energy and confidence they have in each step they take towards arriving
to their destination. Never quitting. They get back up if they fail and
try again and again until they achieve their goal. Always being honest,
humble and modest in the process, authentic people will always have the helping
had they need and the unshakable desire and willpower to get what they want.
Anyone can be authentic. It’s a question about being honest
about your goals. Sometimes we say we want something, but really, it is a
secondary desire to the primary and true aspiration. Once you’ve established
what your conscious and subconscious mind want, the journey to your destination
can begin to be authentic. And with time, it will happen, that I am sure of it.
Saturday, 5 October 2013
The Power Of Your Thoughts
The law of attraction has become a very popular practice over the
years. Many have benefited from its practices in their own lives. Whether it’s
in their relationships, careers, hobbies or health, the law of attraction dictates
the results and outcome in their lives. I was exposed to the law of attraction
at the beginning of my senior year in high school. I remembered seeing the
trailer of the movie that was based on The Secret book. I remember feeling captivated, even convinced
about this concept. So, I began to read about it and applying it to my life.
My life changed instantly. I was feeling happier in my
relationship, my friendships, the classroom, the volleyball court and
everything in my life. Every day was another opportunity to benefit positively
from the law of attraction. My largest manifestation that year was accepting a
scholarship to play Division 1 volleyball in the United States. I remember
mentioning that I was interested in playing post-secondary volleyball at the
highest competitive level I could play while attending a good academic
institution. I began to attract different programs from both Canadian and
American universities. I wasn’t the best in the classroom or on the court, but
I had a goal and I knew it would happen. I trained hard on and off the court
and in the classroom, and I continued to believe I could and would play at that
level. I would even visualize shaking the coach’s hand on a recruiting trip or
receiving information from different universities. And it happened. I was
seeing how much the law of attraction was working for me. By graduation, I was
accepting a full-scholarship to play Division 1 Volleyball in the NCAA in the
United States. I was in awe.
While I saw how the law of attraction could manifest in
positive ways in my life, I have also lived moments where it made my concerns
and fears turn into failure and obstacles. The law of attraction doesn’t only
filter good thoughts; it can also manifest your negative thoughts into
undesirable outcomes. I remember my second year in university and how miserable
I was. I had lost 30 pounds from August to December, we had an unsuccessful
season as a team and no one was enjoying being on the team. I remember thinking
that whole semester how miserable I was and how terrible the season was going.
Many of teammates felt the same way about the season. And as our negative
thoughts worked together, we had found our outcome. We had talent, we worked
hard but we lost to easy teams, didn’t play or act as a team and the season
reflected our unhappiness. I remember how much we worked that spring season to
change that mentality. Personally, I remember telling myself that I would never
live a season as I did my second year. I began to be faster, stronger and
happier. I was enjoying the training,
the bonding, the classroom, the weight room and everything that was in my
student-athlete life. I saw how my thoughts began to change my circumstances
from unfavorable to favorable. I also saw how the team had changed its
mentality as well. Our success grew little by little every day, and by our
season year, we had built a foundation for years to follow.
The power of your thoughts and the energy you put into them
will create your life. Sometimes people tell me that this type of thought
process is not for them. I always told myself, those were the people who didn’t
understand it. Just because you don’t understand something doesn’t mean you
have to reject it. The law of attraction controls our lives. I have had people
tell me that this way of thinking is unrealistic, and that we cannot control the
environment or the outcomes in our lives. I believe this to be 99.99% false. We
create our social constructions, our feelings and emotions, which transform
into actions and reality. Whether you are creating positive or negative
thoughts, your outcome will come from them. Monitoring your thoughts all the
time can be quite tasking but by being aware of the thoughts, you can begin to control the thoughts that go through your mind. When you have a negative thought, you can make yourself
aware of it and change it. You have to live a very conscious and thoughtful
life. When you do this, your life benefits from your ability to cultivate good
thoughts even out of the bad ones. Nevertheless, you must try the law of
attraction to ever understand it and reap the benefits of it.
Monday, 30 September 2013
See It, Feel It, Believe It, Produce It
There are many lessons playing sports have taught me. From a very early stage in my life, I was introduced to visualization. It all began in my karate dojo when I was in ninth grade. At the beginning and end of class, we would meditate for a minute or two, and sometimes even longer. During that time, our sensei (instructor) taught us to picture ourselves completing each technique with finesse and power. It helped cultivate this visual imagery in our minds, which allowed us to better perform our techniques. Visualization helped with producing each motion to its very best. It also allowed for us to gain a great deal of focus and discipline. I believe it was in my karate dojo that the seed of visualization was planted into my life.
I continued to master this technique throughout different venues in my life. I used it when I played volleyball. I would picture myself hitting a certain way, cheering in a certain way, and even performing the way I wanted to. I could see how visualization manifested itself in my game. I even used it while I was getting recruited by universities. I would picture myself getting an email, a phone call and even get approached by a coach. It helped me create images in my mind that gave me the confidence in my dreams and my goals. The images I produced in my mind kept on manifesting themselves in my life. In high school, I achieved so many of my goals through hard work and visualization. I even got to a point I could do it with my eyes open, right before I played or even right before a serve crossed over the net. The benefits of visualization were transforming me into the best athlete I could be on and off the court. I also benefited from this technique, in the classroom, in my social and personal life. I used it in my relationships, friendships and networking.
While I saw the benefits of my positive thoughts, I also encountered at times how visualization could be a tool that brought negative outcomes and failure in my life. When the images in my mind were manifesting themselves from my negative thoughts, the outcomes always produced themselves that way. Visualization can have a positive or negative affect on your life. You can learn to train your mind to control your thoughts and not allow negativity to infiltrate the images you are producing in your mind. As Henry Ford once said "Whether you think you can or can't, you're right." There is a lot of truth in that saying because only one person has the ability to tell you whether or not you can or can't do something. And that person is you. Even if it's impossible, you have all the odds against you or time is not in your favour, mastering visualization can bring you to new heights in your life whether it be personal, your career, your relationships, your social life and even you health.
Visualization can be practiced every day. You don't have to spend hours every day trying to make it work for you. You can do it right before you go to bed. Picture something you want, see yourself having it and enjoy it. Seeing it, feeling the emotions of getting what you want and believing in it will help you arrive to the outcomes, success and accomplishments you desire.
I continued to master this technique throughout different venues in my life. I used it when I played volleyball. I would picture myself hitting a certain way, cheering in a certain way, and even performing the way I wanted to. I could see how visualization manifested itself in my game. I even used it while I was getting recruited by universities. I would picture myself getting an email, a phone call and even get approached by a coach. It helped me create images in my mind that gave me the confidence in my dreams and my goals. The images I produced in my mind kept on manifesting themselves in my life. In high school, I achieved so many of my goals through hard work and visualization. I even got to a point I could do it with my eyes open, right before I played or even right before a serve crossed over the net. The benefits of visualization were transforming me into the best athlete I could be on and off the court. I also benefited from this technique, in the classroom, in my social and personal life. I used it in my relationships, friendships and networking.
While I saw the benefits of my positive thoughts, I also encountered at times how visualization could be a tool that brought negative outcomes and failure in my life. When the images in my mind were manifesting themselves from my negative thoughts, the outcomes always produced themselves that way. Visualization can have a positive or negative affect on your life. You can learn to train your mind to control your thoughts and not allow negativity to infiltrate the images you are producing in your mind. As Henry Ford once said "Whether you think you can or can't, you're right." There is a lot of truth in that saying because only one person has the ability to tell you whether or not you can or can't do something. And that person is you. Even if it's impossible, you have all the odds against you or time is not in your favour, mastering visualization can bring you to new heights in your life whether it be personal, your career, your relationships, your social life and even you health.
Visualization can be practiced every day. You don't have to spend hours every day trying to make it work for you. You can do it right before you go to bed. Picture something you want, see yourself having it and enjoy it. Seeing it, feeling the emotions of getting what you want and believing in it will help you arrive to the outcomes, success and accomplishments you desire.
Sunday, 29 September 2013
Back In Action: From The Sideline
When the last ball fell in the championship tournament, I
thought my days in the volleyball world were over. I was beyond satisfied with
the season, and for the most part, all of the goals our team and I had set for
myself had been met. To some degree, I had finished on top and I wanted to
leave the game that way. Little did I know, it would not be the last time I
would be in a competitive setting. Of course, I played recreationally on
different occasions but I never thought I would participate in any competitive or
structured volleyball team. Today, I find myself coaching at the collegiate
level. I have returned to the game but this time as a coach.
It’s funny how life can change; you can grow as a person yet
you still can love something as much as you did when you were in the midst of
it. Volleyball was the one thing I was always very excited about. It was a
venue for me to leave whatever was going in my actual life behind and play a
game I loved. Now I find myself in another place during the game, the sideline.
Although I miss being on the court, it is such a rewarding experience to give
back to a sport that gave me so much and made me the person I am today. Over
the years, I have acquired knowledge and skills about the game that I never
knew would serve me well as a coach. Additionally, I was blessed with such
great coaches over the years that helped me grow as an athlete but also an
individual. I am very excited about the opportunity to coach and learn more
about the game I love. The lessons I learned as a student-athlete were on and
off the court. I am sure it will be the same as a coach. There is no doubt in
my mind that this season will be tough with a team of rookies but I believe the best stories are the ones from the teams that
practice and play with a lot of heart. I look forward to our team's story and the foundational growth we will make as a team.
Thursday, 5 September 2013
A Champagne Toast to Club 24
To club 23:
You gave me such an amazing chapter of my life. I feel so grateful to have had a year filled with adventures, new friendships and so many accomplishments. I would be foolish to think that without you, I would be the person I am today. You have made me bolder, stronger, resilient, passionate and even crazier than I was before.
Without you, I could have never had the courage to start my masters. You've allowed me to immerse myself in studies that truly make me passionate about this world and life. I would have never had made the friends I have today, if it wasn't for such an open-mind. Whether it was the French exchange students in my master program or the Rwandan lawyer that welcomed me into his country, you have showed me a global sense of friendship. I am so grateful to have so many good-hearted and genuine people in my life.
Without you, I would have never been bold enough to travel to the other side of the world and find a place I love. In the heart of Africa, you showed me how resilient, courageous and dynamic a community can be. You showed me the beauty nature is and how the world is a constant battle and union between nature and human. You challenged me physically, emotionally, mentally and psychologically. Climbing Kilimanjaro was an eye-opening moment in my life because for once I was at the mercy of Mother Nature. I surrendered and in the end, I was brought to Africa's highest point where my mind was the clearest it had ever been.
There is so much I have to be grateful for. Each day, I wake up grateful, inspired and excited. I don't know what the day has in store for me, but I know that it begins with a laugh and ends with one too. All those people in my life, work friends, school friends, family, acquaintances or random encounters, they all set a precedent with me because they teach me another lesson about people and life. I am so blessed to have such a profound belief that this world is more than we could ever imagine, but I am equally determined to get as much out of it as I can.
In my 24th year of life, I know I will be faced with adversity, success, obstacles and accomplishments. I know it will take me in a whirlwind of opportunities, new journeys and exciting outcomes. I can't tell you what is going to happen, just that it will be great. Take me as I am, and make me better with each day. As for the world, watch out, I am coming for ya!!
I raise my metaphorical champagne glass to you all, stay tuned, there is more to come.
J.Z
Wednesday, 4 September 2013
One Last Stride
Well, it's finally here! After a summer of great adventures, new friendships and amazing outcomes, I am ready to start my last semester as a grad student. When I first started my masters in Conflict Studies, I did not know where it would take me, who I would become and how it would change the course of my life. I now realize how much this one decision I made a year ago was the best one I have made so far in my life.
Since I entered this programme, I have had the chance to take classes about my passions like peacebuilding, conflict analysis and identity. It has allowed me to approach different conflicts, politics and social dynamics from a different perspective. Additionally, this programme allowed me to embark on an amazing experience to Rwanda, where the course of my studies and career goals moulded into something more concrete where I gained perspective and purpose for my future.
I am very grateful for what has past this last year and even more excited about the year to come. As my last stride in this short but meaningful chapter of my academic life, I am looking forward to sharing my final thoughts, adventures and accomplishments ahead. Stay tuned!
J.Z
Since I entered this programme, I have had the chance to take classes about my passions like peacebuilding, conflict analysis and identity. It has allowed me to approach different conflicts, politics and social dynamics from a different perspective. Additionally, this programme allowed me to embark on an amazing experience to Rwanda, where the course of my studies and career goals moulded into something more concrete where I gained perspective and purpose for my future.
I am very grateful for what has past this last year and even more excited about the year to come. As my last stride in this short but meaningful chapter of my academic life, I am looking forward to sharing my final thoughts, adventures and accomplishments ahead. Stay tuned!
J.Z
Wednesday, 21 August 2013
No Such Thing as A Coincidence or An Accident
Twentieth century writer and poet William Bourroughs once
said: “ In the magical universe there are no coincidences and there are no
accidents. Nothing happens unless some wills it to happen.” When we think about the magical universe, we
tend to believe it is an exclusive place for fantasists, idealists and visionaries.
This false reality tends to slip itself into our minds as we get older and we
are told that reality is one thing and magic is another. When that happens,
limits, boundaries, conformity and confinement settle in. But it’s never to
late to add some magic in your life. In the end, what do you have to lose?
Your life is a manifestation of your thoughts transforming
into actions and realities. Whether you have positive or negative images and words
mixing in your mind, whatever you think will become your reality. This is
inevitable. Nothing is coincidental and accidents are an excuse to justify a
calculated mistake. “Coincidences” are sometimes what we interpret as magic. “Accidents”
happen but they can be avoided by accepting that it can be controlled and
altered. This also applies to positive outcomes, successes and accomplishments
in your life. They are a manifestation of an idea, a belief and a delivery from
the universe. Hard work and persistence are vital as well.
For instance, if you are working towards establishing your
career, you are constantly thinking about it. You are thinking about the
valuable factors that you need to get your dream job. You are always asking the
universe to work with you and whether you decide you are worth it and a viable
employee, your outcome will derive from it. Sometimes it takes time. It can be
a very long process, especially if it is something that requires a great deal
of persistence and focus. But in the end when you get what you want, you wouldn’t
want anyone to look at your accomplishment as luck or a coincidence. You would
want people to think it was persistence, hard work and determination that got
you what you wanted, a series of calculations that brought success in your
life.
There is no such thing as a coincidence or accident. Whether
it is your relationships, career, health, education or success in our goals, your
whole life is a manifestation of a series of thoughts that are believed as the
truth. It can be difficult to always monitor your thoughts because negativity
can be contagious but so can positivity. Take it one area of your life at a
time, one day at time and you will see how quickly your life will alter and how
magic is no longer reserved for a certain group. Bourroughs, like many others,
understood that we have more control of our lives than we believe. Sometimes it
takes time to understand the idea of magic but start with today, with one
thought about something you have to do or someone you have to see and allow the
thought to manifest itself in your life. You’ve done it before without knowing
it, why not control it and make it happen again.
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